In the positive psychology literature, the virtue of love has three central central character strengths: kindness, intimacy and social intelligence. Kindness and intimacy allow for good deeds to be extended, trust to be experienced, and emotional closeness to be deepened. Social intelligence helps one understand his/her motives or feelings, that of others, and what is appropriate in different contexts. When one engages in mindfulness-based practices (meditation/body scans/yoga/focused attention on a given object), the ability to offer presence and discern feelings and cues of self and others become more accessible and natural.
Ultimately, when we learn and accept, we integrate; we return to our natural, in-born wholeness. In our wholeness, we can understand-and love-the fragmented selves of another. And, like ourselves, we have a felt sense that they are just as complete, imbued with a life-spirit that perhaps a little kindness in the right moment can heal. We offer this, knowing notions of pride, getting in the last word, pointing a finger, fade with the light of a generous heart and a magnanimous mind.